Do you feel like homeschooling is hard? If so, this is for you!

Dollie is gonna be debunking the myth that homeschooling is hard and shares insights to make it feel easier. If homeschooling feels hard to you, there are actionable steps you can take to transform your homeschooling experience.

I've been to a place where I 100% would say that homeschooling is hard. I've cried myself to sleep. I've lessons have dragged on and on where I felt like they were never going to end. I've been tempted and threatened the yellow bus many times and I even couldn't even teach our second child how to read. Even with experience of being a kindergarten teacher and teaching our first child how to read, which we later found out he was dyslexic. But I know how challenging it can be, especially when you are at a place that you are not walking in it in the way that the Holy Spirit has intended.

This episode is brought to by Smooth & Easy Days.

“If we would, but receive it, we are not capable of examining that which we do not know. And knowledge is the result of a slow involuntary process impossible to the mind in the critical attitude.” Charlotte Mason

The critical mind is what makes us believe things are hard. And I know from my own experience that I have criticized myself, I've criticized my children, I've criticized my husband, and in those times things automatically become more hard. They become harder, and they become more difficult for us.

A teacher is required to teach the concept of anything new or difficult for understanding and confidence in the ability to overcome the unknown and master the skill to independently do the thing. 

Homeschool moms are doing it in our own understanding with a critical attitude about ourselves, our children, and our husband, sometimes about the curriculum, sometimes about our children's ability or disabilities, sometimes about their challenges they have in dynamics of themselves, that critical attitude along with doing it in our own strength, which is what faith talked about, about how we need the Holy Spirit. 

It's impossible to Homeschool without the Holy Spirit. 

It's also impossible to Homeschool without a teacher, without someone who has already been there, done that who's overcome the same struggles you have currently that knows how to navigate through that.

You need the support of a community that says, you know, I've done that before. Here's what I did to get out of that situation, how to make it easier. 

Become very intentional about identifying those things that make what you do with a purpose, hard and difficult.

What makes it hard for you?

When we can start to identify those things, we're going to be able to see homeschooling much easier because we're removing this critical mindset of ourselves and of our children, of our husbands, of disabilities, of learning challenges, of curriculum, of finances, of all the things that make us that contribute to this feeling of things being hard. 

There are three reasons homeschooling seems hard: you lack understanding, you lack ability, and you lack skill.

Now, please do not take that to say that you're not capable of homeschooling. You truly are. And not only that, you've been called to God from God to Homeschool your children, but it doesn't mean that just because you are called doesn't mean there is some kind of action you have to take to become equipped.

The Easy Framework

When you recognize that homeschooling seems hard because you're lacking understanding ability and skill, you can then use this easy Framework that I'm about to give you to then become equipped in anything that you deem hard.

The key is finding the person who says it's easy. Who's saying it's not hard? Those are the people you need to lean into, listen to and learn from.

These four steps inside the Easy Framework takes you from hard to easy.

Step 1: Identify New Or Difficult Things

As soon as you begin something new or difficult will mean that you don't have the understanding of what to do, where to start, what to do next, and what's all the components that come into it. 

This may sound like common sense, yet people ignore overwhelm that is caused by overlooking this step and plowing through in your own strength without any understanding of what to do.

When you have that aspect, then you understand, wait a second, this is hard because I've started something new and difficult. This has nothing to do about really about you.

It's the thing!

When we come into this step, we can stop being critical of ourselves.

If we recognize our child is struggling in math and reading or spelling or folding their laundry or whatever, it's because it's new or difficult and we understand that we need to come beside them and we teach them.

We need to have that same grace and patience with ourselves as our children are learning something new and difficult.

Step 2: Gain Understanding

The next step step is to gain understanding of what you don't know.

Remember, we're not capable if we can receive this, what Charlotte Mason say, we are not capable of examining that which we do not know.

In other words, if you've not had experience in something, you really don't know what you don't know, and you're not gonna be able to identify what you don't know and you're not gonna be able to fill in those gaps on your own.

This is where the Holy Spirit and Titus 2 women come into your life, who has been there, who are saying it's easy.

At this point, you need to ask: “Why is it easy? Tell me what I don't understand.”

Step 3: Grow Ability

When you gain that understanding, you come into this next step, where you grow your ability.

I know when you first started to Homeschool, there were so much you had to learn and you probably went to some kind of conference either in person or online to learn what paperwork you have to file or what requirements you have to appease the homeschooling laws with. You had to come to this understanding just because you had a purpose and you filled out those requirements.

Once you got approval to Homeschool, all of a sudden you say, okay, that's all I need to know.

Now I'm gonna go get the curriculum and I'm gonna teach it.

It's not that simple.

We recognize that when things are new or difficult, we have to keep gaining this understanding in order to grow our ability. Growing ability is not just head knowledge, it's us implementing. It's us doing what we are learning in order to have our own experience.

Step 4: Develop Skills

When we start having our own experience, all of a sudden, we develop skills.

So what that looks like is if it's a child and math seems hard, all of a sudden when they get the understanding of the concept of math, they're growing the ability to get correct answers sometimes, then they master it and they get all of the answers correct.

The knowledge becomes theirs and it's all of a sudden, easy, to the point that they can then turn around and teach someone else.

Your homeschool journey can have the same experience with this four step Easy Framework.

Anytime you're feeling something's hard, stop and recognize, is it new or difficult? Where can I get to gain the understanding? Find a mentor, find a teacher, find a Titus 2 person in your life, grow the ability of what they're telling you.

Your next steps are what to do, where to begin, all of those things and then develop the skills.

With developed skills, you can innovate and make it your own unique to your own family.

This is really where you're going to master homeschooling so that you're not just taking someone's routine or someone's schedule or someone's curriculum, but you're building and develop these skills to know how to do it with your own unique family, based on your own unique situations and what you're facing as challenges in your home.

The last thing I want to teach you is how to make your homeschooling days smoother and easier.

It's to create systems.

What I love about systems is that they will actually form habits.

We all have habits in our home and like it or not, we are teaching our children habits every minute and hour of the day. We're teaching them either bad habits, good habits, or we're allowing them their indifference habits, meaning the things that make us unique from one or another.

When we recognize creating systems is key to helping things to become easier and better and even faster, then we put our energy there.

I have created this amazing five day workshop that is coming up and it's The Productive Homeschool workshop where I'm going to help you get things done easier, better, and faster without losing your joy and it's free. I'd love for you to join me!