Do you have a hard time motivating your child to learn what you've planned for their homeschool? If so, you are in the right place. I'm Dollie Freeman and I am hosting day three of what I'm calling the behind Go from Behind to Learning Progress Challenge. This challenge is designed to help you as a homeschooling mom understand what this school year must consist of in order for you to show progress by the end of the year and to alleviate all of those concerns about year end testing and if your child is gonna show progress on those tests.

In day one of this challenge, I talked about how important it was for you to understand the common mistake Homeschool moms make that are hindering your progress. If you did not listen to that after this, you are gonna wanna go back and you're gonna make sure that you listen to that as well. In day two of this special series, I debunking the myth your child will learn when they are ready. In today's training, I'll be teaching the #1 reason your child isn't motivated to learn. 

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The Reason Your Child Isn't Motivated

When I had decided to go ahead and go all in on committing to a full year of getting my struggling learner to progress in his studies, basically his reading, where focusing on reading that one year, I realized that he had developed some behavioral issues in the process.

Now, not necessarily behavioral in the fact that he was disobedient to me, but rather that he had formed the habit of distraction.

Those distractions were obvious when I had gotten up to go tend to his younger brother or his sister, or even done a few things around the house when I came back, there was no progress done in that lesson. So when we look at all of the problems that might be causing your child to be unmotivated in their learning, you need to look at behavior. Behavior as well as if there's learning challenges, but also how you are developing that environment for learning within your home.

So what I ended up doing is realizing that in that time, I need to be consistent and intentional in how I was using the hours of our homeschooling.

He needed me to sit next to him to form the habits of attention.

His age said that I should be able to let him sit and do things more independently, but the results were proving that he had that habit of distraction that was keeping him from staying focused in order to build on that momentum.

Today I'm gonna be talking about how I honed in and committed to practice makes perfect, and how that mindset made the big difference in our child's ability to stay focused and motivated to learn.

When during this time, I stopped and I prayed and I really asked the Lord for wisdom and direction because let's face it, I was losing a lot of my own confidence, even though I had successfully taught children to read as a kindergarten teacher, I had taught my first child how to read and this child I was struggling with teaching to read well at 11 or 12.

I committed a complete year to getting my child to read before the end of the year.

That was my goal.

So having that goal, I needed to feel confidence myself, but also having some type of wisdom of where to start and what to do.

In my prayer, I was just really seeking the Lord on that wisdom and direction. He reminded me of when my child was seven and a half years old, and in that time, my son would be going outside, he would come in, he would grab the adult field guides off the shelf, and he would try really hard to read.

At that point, I began to realize something that was so important to every person's educational path, regardless if they're struggling or if their success is in a subject that one child struggles with.

That reason your child isn't motivated is because they lack interest.

How To Motivate Your Child To Learn

My son, at seven and a half years old, had the interest of knowing the name, the habitats, the food that something ate that he had found while exploring in our backyard.

That interest is what gave him that motivation to try to sound at words.

When the Lord reminded me of that, I realized that Charlotte Mason spoke about this in her original writing, and I began to fill in the gaps of what that looked like.

Charlotte Mason always said that your curriculum needed to earn eager attention, and that eager attention is what was not happening.

When I would get up and leave my son to himself in his lessons, because he had formed the habit of distractions, I had allowed that by letting too much time go in between, and I needed to correct that by being beside him.

But the only way to keep his attention, even when I was beside him, was to make sure that his curriculum was of interest.

The problem that your child is unmotivated in learning is usually the curriculum.

If your child is not interested in your curriculum, they are bulking at the assignments, and they're taking longer than it ought to take are signs that the interest is not there.

Put your child in front of something that they're interested in, whether it be curriculum or not, you'll see that their interest is there, even if it drags on for an hour or two hours or three hours. Hollywood shows us this. Our children even of one can sit in front of an nearly two hour movie.

Attention is possible as long as their interest is there.

So what do we do? What do we do when we have planned the curriculum that are not getting the attention?

Well, there's two parts

Number one I'm gonna talk about today and what I did, second part I'm gonna pick up tomorrow.

So don't miss tomorrow's topic.

You are gonna want to realize that a lot of curriculum is watered down curriculum, Charlotte, Mason talked of that as twaddle.

Our brains require the full idea, not just bits and pieces and water down and take it apart.

What is required in order for our children and our brains to retain is we need the full spectrum of the idea.

We need to be able to see why, what, how, when, and if those are so important to us, being able to retain. These are natural questions that when a curriculum cannot give us that fullness, it doesn't have the ability to build our interest.

So that's number one problem with curriculum. The second thing is we're getting curriculum that may have interested someone else's family, or we feel should be because it's simple and it's in a box for us and it's all done. But it doesn't necessarily that mean that that is going to ignite and spark vital interest in our children to earn eager attention.

So what I want you to do is what I did to overcome our child's struggles is to put their interest in the place where they're struggling. For instance, our son was struggling with learning to read. So I used his interest that was already showing him or showing me that he would get an adult field guide off the shelf to learn how to read at seven and a half.

I coupled that with our curriculum plans, meaning this, everything that I gave to him had everything to do with animals because that was his love is animals. So when I coupled his struggles with his interests, what ended up happening is I had earned his eager attention, and it was no longer about what his struggle was, but now about his interest was. He was willing to overcome those struggles because he wanted to know the answers to the what, when, where, how, and if.

By giving him that curriculum that answered all of those questions, aligning with his interests that first year where I said, we're gonna practice for progress. When we put that with his interest, guess what happened?

You betcha he completely went into progressing the challenges he had before with curriculum that no longer interested his mind. Guess what? His distraction habit disappeared and he was building the habit of attention. His attention span increased. So we were able to go from five minute lessons up to 20 minute lessons within a few weeks because he wanted more. And when that happened, it automatically ignited the passion for that next lesson.

An interest led curriculum is so important to overcoming the struggles. 

The Secret To Getting Your Kids Motivated To Learn

I wanna to tell you now is the secret to getting your child motivated. Now, this happened by pure circumstance. I was getting ready for our third child to be born.

I knew that I could not be planning all summer long. I needed a way to be able to implement our plans and plan in a way that was simple, so if I was in the middle of nursing or changing a diaper or what have you, that our children could begin to take ownership and I would be able to be able to breathe a little bit better and not spend the whole summer planning.

So I created what I called the Grade Notebook. So instead of having a teacher's planner where it had all the things I needed to do, I separated it into my daughter's grade and her assignments, and then I separated it into my son's grade and his assignments. Well, I had no idea by simplifying things for me and being able to just look at a glance of what each child is responsible for and to make planning easier for me the next year, I also did something that gave the ownership of our children's education to them.

So here's what happened. Our daughter recognized that mom was a little busy at times, and she's like, can I go onto the next lesson? I know where to find my assignment. And so I would go, yep, go ahead, your next thing's here. Then she would go and she would look it up and she would go and do it.

Some kids just love checklists just like we moms do. When she got her hands on that checklist, she became completely motivated to go ahead and move forward.

Now, that child was not behind in anything. She was a vivid reader. She loved assignments, she loved her schoolwork, but at the time something happened, she loved an outdoor project that she and her brother were working on, and she wanted more free hours in the afternoon because the days were getting darker earlier, meaning they were shorter, and she knew she had only a certain amount of time to work on this project.

Unbeknownst to me, she woke up at 6 or 6:30 in the morning, and took ownership of her education, and she began working on all of her things. She knew how to read, and write., so she took her assignments and she went forth with it completely on her own, 100% motivated.

Now, here is what happened. I woke up that first morning she took ownership of her education. And told me that she was working on her last assignment for the day. There's no way she could be doing that. So doubting her, I went through her assignments and sure enough, she was on her last one and she had done perfect execution in it.

At the same time, I'm working through to keep her accountable and verify and evaluate her assignments, our son got up, our struggling learner, and when he found out that she was on her last assignment and he had yet to have breakfast or yet to start his lesson, I had to deal with a meltdown because this was their project they were working on together. I was not allowing one child to go outside and do work or have free time without doing the work first. So he knew that and he began to cry. He began to beg me, and I told him that we'll get right into your school as soon as we have breakfast.

The next day, he got up and he began to be motivated in his work that he knew he had the ability to do on his own. We call that independent work. He knew he could do certain things on his own and then when he came across something that he did not know how to read or he wasn't sure what it was, he would ask his sister while I was still sleeping with our youngest.

The key thing was he was motivated because there was a project that he wanted to work on with his sister, and he knew he had to get up earlier and to work on it. So you betcha, as soon as I got up, he was ready to do his other assignments. I checked his work. They had done it with perfect execution, and before you know it that Grade Notebook became the motivation for our children to work.

The key here is that I want you to begin to work on in this challenge task is to determine your child's interest so that you can earn their eager attention to overcome their struggles. So remember, you're coupling their struggles, whatever they're struggling with, with their interest, and that is the key thing that you're gonna have to work on in order to make sure that you are motivating your children.

Then also consider adding your lessons into a place where you can give ownership to your children to take ownership of their lessons. They know what's required of them, in what order, and in how much time. And as long as they're having perfect execution and you're evaluating their work along the side, there's no reason for you not to do that with them.

If you need more help with teaching a struggling learner, be sure to grab the Homeschool Progress Kit today.

The Homeschool Progress Kit helps homeschool mom identify and avoid gaps in reading, writing, math, and thinking.

Now, if you haven't been able to get the kit, but you wanna get started, I have a poster set for you and I encourage you to go get that. 

These three posters will also help you to have the secret to identifying gaps in your children's education, as well as how to motivate your kids to love learning. 

Solve learning challenges guide and poster set will help the homeschooling mom know how to get her kids to show progress in their learning.